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Are You Guilty of Weaponising Incompetence?

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Weaponised incompetence happens when someone pretends they can’t handle a task—or does it so poorly that someone else has to step in and take over. Whether it’s a friend dodging responsibility, a family member refusing to share household chores, or a colleague dumping extra work on the team, this behaviour creates an unfair balance. Over time, it breeds resentment, exhaustion, and frustration for the person picking up the slack.

The problem? It’s so normalised...