20 Subtle Ways You’re Spiritually Bypassing in Daily Life Part 2: Points 11–20

In Part 1, we explored the first ten subtle ways spiritual bypassing can show up in everyday life - often disguised as wisdom, strength, or even inner peace. But real emotional mastery isn’t about avoiding pain. It’s about being fully present with it, even when it’s uncomfortable.

Here are ten more ways you might be bypassing your emotional truth without realising it:

11. Judging others for being ‘low vibe’ instead of seeing your own projections

It’s easy to dismiss someone as negative, toxic, or "low frequency." But sometimes what irritates us in others is really a mirror reflecting what we haven’t owned in ourselves.

Projection is subtle. That internal cringe or silent judgment? Often, it's a part of you asking to be seen, integrated, and healed. Spiritual maturity is recognising that "low vibe" moments are just human moments—in them and in you.

12. Blaming your past lives or karma instead of taking emotional responsibility

Yes, your soul may carry imprints. But your current life is asking for your attention. Blaming karma or past lives can become a way to avoid taking ownership of how you’re reacting now.

The moment you catch yourself saying, "This must be karmic," ask: Is this insight helping me grow emotionally? Or am I using it to dodge responsibility for how I’m showing up?

13. Assuming your intuition is always right - when it’s actually fear speaking

Intuition is calm, grounded, and clear. Fear is loud, urgent, and reactive. Many people confuse trauma responses with gut feelings.

If your "intuitive hit" comes with anxiety, dread, or defensiveness, pause. Ask your nervous system what it’s reacting to. True intuition never creates panic. It creates clarity.

14. Skipping therapy because "you’ve already done the inner work"

There’s a point in every spiritual journey where you feel like you've already healed it all. That’s often when the deepest work begins. Thinking you’re beyond therapy can be a defence against vulnerability.

Therapy isn’t about fixing you. It’s about meeting yourself with new awareness. Every layer of healing brings new insight—and sometimes, support is exactly what you need.

15. Preaching compassion while resenting the people closest to you

It’s easy to talk about unconditional love. It’s much harder to practise compassion when someone presses your emotional buttons.

If you're preaching kindness while secretly simmering in resentment, there’s work to do. Real spiritual growth shows up in your private moments—especially with those who challenge you most.

16. Using spiritual identity to feel superior instead of connected

Having spiritual knowledge doesn’t make you more evolved. If you find yourself thinking you're more "awake" than others, check in.

Superiority creates separation. And separation is the opposite of spiritual connection. True awakening brings humility, not hierarchy.

17. Numbing pain with overworking, ‘purpose’, or constant productivity

Purpose is important. But if you’re always busy, always achieving, always in motion—you might be numbing something deeper.

Busyness can feel like progress, but it can also be a distraction. What part of you is afraid of stopping? What feelings are waiting in the stillness?

18. Avoiding tough conversations because you "don’t want to lower your frequency"

Difficult conversations aren’t low frequency - they’re necessary. Avoiding them in the name of "energy protection" is usually fear dressed up as spirituality.

Conflict, when done consciously, raises the vibration. It clears stuck energy and creates real connection. You don’t have to choose between truth and peace. They often go hand in hand.

19. Confusing detachment with emotional suppression

Detachment isn’t numbness. It’s not apathy. And it certainly isn’t pretending you don’t care when you actually do.

Spiritual detachment is about not clinging —not about turning off your heart. If you're suppressing emotion and calling it detachment, you're not being present. You're being protected.

20. Telling yourself "I’ve already healed this"—when your nervous system says otherwise

Sometimes we declare healing with our mind, but our body hasn't caught up. If the same triggers keep showing up, there’s still something unresolved.

Your nervous system doesn’t lie. If you're reactive, shut down, or flooded, that’s data. It's not failure. It’s a message. Healing isn’t a checkbox. It’s a cycle.

True Healing is Honest, Not Perfect

Spiritual bypassing often happens when we want to be further along than we are. But skipping over pain only makes it louder.

There is nothing wrong with being in process. That is the work. Real spirituality doesn’t ask you to be perfect—it asks you to be real.

If any of these resonated, take it as an invitation: not to judge yourself, but to go deeper.

You don’t have to bypass your humanity to grow spiritually. You just have to meet it fully. Read Part 1 HERE

© 2025 Shamala Tan