One of the biggest obstacles to healing is when you're given a cookie-cutter answer or solution to something that is uniquely your experience. Have you ever experienced this?

Now, most of our problems are similar in the sense that there is a baseline in what kinds of thoughts/emotions surface in our experiences. However what makes us unique is how we experience our challenges, problems or trauma. We all carry different understanding, perspectives, and even our family background plays such an...

Whenever we say self-care, people tend to think, it's about sleeping in, eating well, not doing any work. 

Self-care is more than that. Self-care is also caring about what kinds of thoughts and emotions we allow ourselves to entertain and fester. 

If we entertain thoughts that are unhealthy for us, by focusing on the negatives about ourselves, about others and situations while lying in bed, that's not self-care. That's an even more toxic environment we have created for ourselves....

We have just entered a season of renewal. What does this mean?

It means that the past few months have been good at helping us to re-evaluate our lives, our priorities, our interests and so on. If you're still at the stage of re-evaluation, it is perfectly fine too, because this season of renewal is going to be with us for the next few months. Have you been feeling it?

The process of renewal is gradual, it is not as if we will hit a button and everything changes, we are spiritual beings...

What do you do to avoid truth?

We all do this. We do things, say things to avoid the truth.

Sometimes the truth is too much that we unconsciously block them, or avoid them, or we just don’t want to see them because the truth is not acceptable by our peers, by society or by our family.

We dishonour ourselves and our inner truths to please the world, which leaves us hollow and unhappy.

Have you experienced this? I am sure all of us have, at one time or another.

Sometimes, acknowledging...

A client asked me recently if we should just ignore feelings and thoughts of the past when we are trying to move on and learn our lessons in life? This is what I told her: 

No, of course, we do not ignore them. They surfaced for a reason and we must pay attention to how our emotions, our energies and our physical and subtle bodies respond to different situations and circumstance in life. 

Our body systems have intelligence, and by ignoring them, we are missing out on a whole lot of...

I came across this quote (by Elizabeth Gilbert) on socials yesterday:

You are afraid of surrender because you don't want to lose control. But you never had control; all you had was anxiety.

Isn't this just too true?

Whenever we face a challenge in our lives, whether it is work, our health, relationships or just life in general, we feel like it is so hard to surrender to what IS. And what is really in store for us, and we want to plan everything, we want to control everything. Because we...

Most of us do not realise how liberating it is to heal. 

I'm not talking just about healing our physical being, healing must take place in our emotional/mental selves, and spiritual selves as well. The reason why most of us do not see the importance of healing our other mental, emotional and spiritual being is because we do not see how limited we really are without healing. 

When we are physically injured or when we are ill, we are so aware that our movements are limited. Our...

I watched an audition by the Missing People Choir in Britain's Got Talent 2017, it was heartbreaking. 

The choir is made up of people who are missing a loved one. The missing people are mostly their children, and some missing since the 80s. Can you imagine having to live through that, not knowing?

Yet, they found strength together, singing as a choir, and they used the talent show as a platform to send a message out to the world, hoping to get some leads to find their missing...

What you seek is seeking you - Rumi

I love this quote for its simple truth, for its simplicity, and for its depth.

I remember I posted this quote some time back, and someone said: but this is not true, I have been seeking and searching but I do not get what I sought for, what I always get is not what I want.

Want. And seek.

Two very different meanings.

In my understanding, "want" usually comes from the ego-self.

So, in this Rumi quote, the YOU, is not an any old you. It is not the ego you,...