The Simple Steps to Self-Awareness: Becoming a Works-in-Progress Enlightened Human Being

Embrace self-awareness by taking a few simple steps to transform your life and become the best version of yourself.

Are you ready to discover the path to enlightenment and become the best version of yourself? In this article, we will explore what it means to be truly human and the choices we have to elevate ourselves to a higher level of being. Becoming an enlightened human being is a journey that involves transforming the way we think, speak, and behave.

Many of the pointers below relate to our speech, behavior, and thinking patterns. However, before we dive into these aspects, it's important to note that we cannot always control how others perceive us, no matter how careful we may be. As such, all we can do is try our best. 

Since we cannot change others' perceptions, we need to learn to be comfortable with how they view us and not let it negatively impact us. With that in mind, let's take a look at some things we can do to become more enlightened.

When it comes to speaking, before we say anything, we should ask ourselves:

• Is it helpful?
• Will it make a positive difference in this situation?
• Is it better for me not to say anything at all?

Of course, we don't always have to be serious and can say things in jest in certain situations, which might even save ourselves or others from embarrassment. However, when in doubt, it's best to keep quiet.

When interpreting what others have said or written about us, we often listen to what we want to hear, leading to misunderstandings. To avoid this, we need to filter things more positively by asking ourselves:

• Am I interpreting this incorrectly because of how I feel about this person or because I'm having a bad day?
• Is this person speaking generally and not referring to me?
• Is this a relationship that I value? If not, I can let it go. If it is a valued relationship, it's best to clarify things with the other person from a position of love and understanding, rather than engaging in a confrontational exchange that could damage the relationship.

When trying to understand why others behave a certain way, it's helpful to put ourselves in their shoes and develop some compassion for them. If their behavior affects us, then it's good to be patient and speak to them about it. Again, the question of how much we value the relationship comes into play here. If the relationship is not significant, we can simply let things go.

Sometimes, we need to take immediate action to address an issue, and at other times, it's better to take some time to reflect on things. The steps outlined above might seem complicated, but they become easier with practice. It's like learning how to ride a bike; once you know how to do it, it becomes second nature.

Remember, life is meant to be lived fluidly, and we should only use the above questions when we are aware of what is going on. If we are unaware, we might react to situations, leading to clashes. In such situations, taking some time to think things through is crucial.

I hope that these steps help you become more enlightened and progress toward attaining more peace.

 

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Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer. Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly levels.

One of her success stories as an author is to be featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.

Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.