Understanding the Impact of Habits on Our Relationships, Work, and More

When we think about habits, our minds often jump to negative ones like drinking, smoking, or overeating. But if we take a moment to reflect, we'll realize that everything we do is a habit. Procrastination is a habit, wealth is a habit, poverty is a habit, and even our health is a habit.

Our habits originate from our thoughts, which then affect our actions and behaviors. So if there's a part of ourselves that we want to change but find ourselves repeating the same pattern, we need to change the habit of our thinking, as everything originates from our thoughts.

Take a moment to ask yourself: what's the most frequent thought that comes to mind? We're often unaware of our thoughts or what we say. For example, I once had a misunderstanding with someone who had a habit of saying "I don't care" in response to serious conversations. Whether said in jest or not, those three words caused a lot of misunderstandings.

Those three words set the tone for the entire conversation, and from my perspective, it conveyed a lack of value for my opinion and disregarded my concerns. After weeks of frustration, we finally had a sit-down, and I pointed out his habit of saying "I don't care." He was shocked and didn't realize the impact of his words, but thankfully, someone else was present and confirmed that it was a habit causing the misunderstanding.

It's astonishing to think that he had uttered those words repeatedly, not meaning them but rather as a bad habit that originated from his subconscious mind. How many other misunderstandings has he had because of this?

Now is the perfect time to reflect on your most frequent thoughts and the words you say out of habit. How have they impacted your relationships, career, life purpose, and even your relationship with money, the earth, and your environment?

Take the time to make a list of the habits you want to change and what you want to replace them with. In the example above, instead of saying "I don't care," replace it with "I hear you." Changing a habit can shift the dynamics of your relationships and even your connection with the universe.

As the famous quote goes, "Change your habits, change your life." The habit of our thinking has more power than we realize. So take the time to reflect, replace negative habits with positive ones, and watch how it changes your outcomes.

@2018, Edited 2023 Shamala Tan

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Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer. Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly levels.

One of her success stories as an author is to be featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.

Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.