What Decision Will I Make If I Didn't Have Any Fear?

Ever experienced a time in your life, whether it is for a project, a job, a relationship, where you are uncertain about when and if it is the time to let go?

We feel all of these tension within our hearts and our heads. We feel the burden of the indecision, we feel stuck, we feel paralysed even. And the temptation to run away is strong. Yet we know we need to face the music.

I’m certain every one of us have been through this. And we start questioning:

• Will we regret it if we let go now?
• What if there isn’t another opportunity that will come by again
• What if this is the one that we should be sticking with, and by letting go, we completely miss the point.

Sometimes, we may be tempted to think that we’re the only one going through this, trust me, this is something that every single one of my clients experiences and finds themselves in a dilemma, myself included.

So how do we then make a decision and have all our questions answered? This is the thing about life, there isn’t a one size fits all answer, neither should we follow the path of someone else who seemingly has been there before us.

All of these decisions are extremely personal and it is for each and every one of us to find the answers and make the decision. As a coach, my role is not to make the decisions for my clients either, my role is to facilitate the process, to lead them to clarity, and at the end of the day, it is still the client who has to make that decision.

But what I have found often, is that the burden of the decision makes us want to give up our personal power, to someone else, to make someone else make the decision for us.

Because we fear:

• making the wrong decision
• having to be responsible for the decisions
• having to live with the decision made
• what others might say, think
• having to deal with other people when they disapprove

One of the best ways to make decisions, especially big ones, life-changing ones is to ask yourself this very simple question:

What decision will I make if I didn’t have any fear?

This will often lead us to the right decision, to our heart’s desire, and to what may serve us well. Ask this question enough and we will see clearly, peel off the layers, and come to the core of what is the centre of our decision.

 Go forth courageously!