Do You Know Your Anger/Jealousy/Annoyance etc Can Make Your World Cave in?

Do you know that fear-based thoughts & emotions sabotage us daily? So what are fear-based thoughts and feelings? They are anything that is negative and not coming from a space of positivity, good or love. Some good examples are criticism, judgmental-ness, anger, sadness, jealousy, aggression, annoyance, anxiety, shame, emptiness, irritation, loneliness, pessimism, scepticism, worry and many more.

How do they sabotage us?

• They compromise our immunity, because our thoughts and emotions affect our cells and how they function. The more negative we are, the more our physical immunity system is compromised.
• We start looking at things from a negative perspective, and because of this, we only see bad things, and we become blind to positive things that are happening around us. As one of my teachers often says: we do not see with their eyes, we see with our minds. And this is true.
• Since our thoughts are creative and powerful engines, it is also the centre of our creation and what we attract in our lives. The more negative we are in thoughts and emotions, the more negative experiences we will draw. It is the law of attraction at play. Think of your psychology as the magnet for what we are attracting. We do not attract what we want, and we draw what we have in our consciousness.
• Our emotions are so powerful, and when not used in the right way, we can certainly create a tidal wave of negative emotions to wash over us over and over again. Our emotional energies assist us in the process of creation. If we attune only to negative emotions, not only is the seed of negative sentiment going to grow, it will become out of control too. Think of the seed of negative emotions like a virus or a fungus. It takes little for it to multiply and spread. Negative emotions (which are seeded by negative thoughts) are like the viruses of our psychological immune system.

When I was going through a rough time in my personal life, feeling depleted, run down and lacking the support system I needed while going through a tiring and energy-zapping time in my marriage then, I had to stop everything I was doing. I could not do any coaching work and had to rethink how I wish to live my life and make a better life for myself and my daughter. At that time, I was already teaching this work, and I had a real taste and test of walking my talk. It was easy to slip and go down the hole of darkness.

At one point, while struggling to stay afloat and trying to keep positive, continually treading water, I was tempted just to let go, and sink. It was a thought that crept in when I wasn’t looking. It was easy for it to come in because my psychological immunity system was compromised. I felt the walls around me caving in on me, and I didn’t have the energy to fight off the negativity. Fortunately, by some miracle, a lifeline dropped on my lap. I saw it for what it was and hung on for dear life. It was many months of hard work to get myself back on track mentally, and then another two years to get my life back on the road.

Negativity can creep up on us and will continue to do so no matter how much we know or how long we have been doing this work. Daily, we need to pop our vitamin for positive psychology and be real to what is happening around us.

Having a robust, powerful and loving support system to call us out when we are sinking is so essential. At a time like this, sometimes all we need is some tough love to save us.

©2019 Shamala Tan

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Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer.  Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly level.

One of her success stories as an author is to being featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.

Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.