The Ripening Process: Preparing for Life's Transformations

The Inner Workings of Making the Change

Everyone goes through changes in life. It's a natural part of the human experience. However, despite knowing this, we often find ourselves resisting change. We say we're not ready, feeling as if we're waiting for something to ripen within us before we can make the change.

For some people, the trigger to change can be a traumatic experience, while others may lose everything they have. Others may go through a life-altering event. But what is this ripening process that makes us ready for change? Is it a clearer view or perspective of the situation or ourselves? Is it a change in our emotional state?

The ripening process, much like baking a cake, involves all the right ingredients and timing. It prepares our minds for the transformation to begin. Too early and we might not see the path, too late and it might not work. Some people are able to walk away from bad situations effortlessly, while others struggle to change, even though they have all the right ingredients. For these people, the status quo feels safer, even though it may be more painful in the long run.

The transformational process is a personal journey and what works for one person may not work for another. Some people seek help from therapists, coaches, or counselors, while others work it out on their own. However, some people become addicted to the process and remain stuck in it, unable to make a commitment to change.

Regardless of how we see ourselves walking towards our true selves, we must honor our own journey and allow ourselves the time and space to do so, despite what others may say. By standing up for our own transformational journey, we are transformed.

Inspiring figures in the field of psychotherapy, such as Carl Jung (one of my personal heroes) and Viktor Frankl, have shown us the transformative power of personal growth and self-discovery. Jung, a Swiss psychiatrist and psychoanalyst, emphasized the importance of understanding our unconscious mind and integrating our shadow self to achieve wholeness. Meanwhile, Frankl, an Austrian neurologist and psychiatrist, developed the concept of meaning therapy, which holds that finding meaning in life is the key to overcoming suffering and achieving fulfillment.

Change is an inevitable part of life. We may resist it, but the ripening process helps us prepare for it. The transformational process is personal and may involve outside help or be a journey we undertake on our own.

Whatever the case may be, we must honor our journey and allow ourselves the time and space to grow. By doing so, we can transform ourselves into the best version of ourselves.

 

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Shamala Tan is an author, spiritual entrepreneur and healer. Her work focuses on transforming the lives of others on the spiritual, emotional, mental and earthly levels.

One of her success stories as an author is to be featured alongside New York’s bestsellers Sonia Choquette, Robert Allen, Arielle Ford, Marci Shimoff as well as Christine Kloser in the book Pebbles In The Pond.

Shamala’s clients include small business owners, holistic practitioners as well as those seeking to find more significant meaning and value in life. Shamala offers laser coaching to her clients on a one-to-one basis or in a group environment, offline as well as online.