In a world where emotional maturity is not always the norm, those who have reached a higher level of emotional intelligence can sometimes feel like outsiders. Emotional maturity involves a deep understanding of oneself, the ability to regulate emotions, maintain patience, and exhibit empathy and understanding towards others. However, living in a society that often values quick reactions, and superficial connections, and avoids deep introspection can pose unique challenges for emotionally...

When we think about habits, our minds often jump to negative ones like drinking, smoking, or overeating. But if we take a moment to reflect, we'll realize that everything we do is a habit. Procrastination is a habit, wealth is a habit, poverty is a habit, and even our health is a habit.

Our habits originate from our thoughts, which then affect our actions and behaviors. So if there's a part of ourselves that we want to change but find ourselves repeating the same pattern, we need to change...

Resentment is basically poison that we feed ourselves overtime to kill ourselves emotionally, mentally, spiritually and eventually physically. We think that it is other people's fault when we are resentful towards them, we feel that they are the cause of our resentment, and we want them to change. 

The deep anger, frustration, and sense of being helpless when it comes to one's relationship with another create such toxic vibes that they linger for a long time.

Every time there is...

Have you encountered people who are so focused on you and your faults, you feel as if they are constantly on the lookout for you to fail. It is as if they have made it their life purpose to do so. Or maybe you recognise this as a trait within yourself.

All of us have some of these critical fault-finder traits, but if we are so outer focused, we lose sight of what is truly important. 

Why do we do this -- focusing on other people, watching when they will fall, or f**k up, and hoping to...

How often have we heard of stories or know of people in our lives who refuse to grow up emotionally?

The thing is there are few immediate clear signs of someone who is emotionally immature until you know them on a deeper level, and the signs become more obvious.

Of course, the immediate clear signs would be those who easily have emotional outbursts, or they lose their temper easily. Sometimes, people think that these are people with strong personalities when in truth they are just emotionally...

Have you ever heard of this concept of losing in order to win?

This idea of losing in order to win doesn't seem to make sense right? Well, this idea only works if you are able to be bigger than your ego. So what does that entail?

When our ego or lower ego, as I like to call it, is bigger than our true self, than it is hard to allow ourselves to lose. Because the lower ego thinks in terms of winning and losing, and the lower ego keeps scores.

If we are bigger than the lower ego, what this...

A few people have asked me if I'm no longer offering spiritual services and if I am just doing Emotional Healing work. I AM STILL offering spiritual services, click on this link for services.

The thing is, spiritual growth and development can only happen with Emotional Healing & Mastery, hence, my focus since the beginning of December has been on emotional therapy and coaching. And lots more people, now more than ever need healing and support for the emotional side of things.

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Only hurt people hurt people, as the saying goes. People who say hurtful things to you whether intentionally or unintentionally come from a place of pain. BUT, it is also important that we check inwards to see if we have projected our pain onto them.

When I work with my clients, one of the first things we do is to turn inward to empower self i.e. the client. People may have said or done hurtful things to them, but ultimately it is the healing process that is the focus.  So likewise, in...

On my Instagram, I posted a super short version of these steps, so here’s the complete version:

With the festive season just around the corner, it is also the time of the year that more people get emotionally triggered by their loved ones. Being triggered is not necessarily a bad thing if we look at it from a positive perspective.

All of these triggerings help us to become more aware of our hidden and unresolved emotional patterns. And if we have the right attitude about it, we can ask...

Overthinking. Many of us have indulged in this every once in a while. For some of us, more than others.

Overthinking has been known to be associated with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety and depression. And sometimes, we can go on for decades overthinking as a habit, if it has not been brought to our attention that it is actually not good for our health.

We take for granted that it is a normal thing to do. Think, think, think. And to overdo it without restraint, like an...